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An introduction

Discussion in 'Introductions' started by Kostadin, Dec 19, 2017.

  1. Kostadin

    Kostadin Active Member

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    Hello people of the Internet!
    The name is Kostadin. I am almost 17 years old, living in Bulgaria, southeastern Europe.
    From 1st to 4th grade I was in an ordinary municipal school. I was "the nerd", naturally smarter compared to the others, participating in mathematic competitions. In my country there is the option to join the math-oriented high school three years earlier before everybody else joins a school of this level (specialized either maths, but also different languages, computer science, engineering, etc,) and this is what I did under the guidance of my parents (I was 5th grade back then).
    For the last six years I have been a part of the same class, with little to not changes in the composition. Here I am not "the smart guy", or "the nerd", but that person who likes weird music (death and black metal,) is interested in weird things (for our age - politics, economics, philosophy, psychology) and with whom you can't really have a casual conversation, or at least isn't a preferred option. Sometime ago it was bothering me, now I have decided that I don't want to have anything in common with almost everyone there, they don't want as well, profit - profit.
    Before the beginning of this astronomical year, I didn't take care of myself at all. I had become lazy, never was too much into any kind of sports, played a lot of Starcraft 2 (and mind you I was very good at it, but making money out of the game would mean for me to basically stop everything else and play games 24/7,) masturbated to pretty much all genres of Internet porn legally available and it should be no surprise what this led to. Well, I think I can say that I'm in a very good position compared to what I was less than an year ago - I've made some friends, had a pretty decent social life during the summer, stopped excessive masturbation, started reading more books, exercising - a number of people have complimented me on my physique.
    So why am I seeking help from others? Because I know that I can do much better and I feel like I have run out of my capabilities of improving myself by just doing stuff. Also I'm still lazy as far as school goes, habits that have been part of me for years are hard to overcome. I have decided not to focus on girls for the entirety of the school year and only do something if a good opportunity presents itself before me. Here is a list of what I want to achieve:
    - 3rd round of the national competition in English for my grade (today I was told that I have passed the first round successfully, the second is between January and February);
    - 2nd round of the national competition in Chemistry for my grade (first round is going to be on 17th January; while I don't have set myself to get to the 3rd round, getting a good score on the second one - 60% is something that I want to do);
    - 3rd round of the national competition in Philosophy (this has been an interest of mine for years, I am good at writing stuff, so I just really want to get there);
    - finishing the school year with only As (which I have done for 9 years straight now and I don't plan on stopping here.)
    //side goals
    - I want to find time to play the acoustic guitar again and learn enough musical theory that I feel comfortable with playing in front of other people
    - I want to learn at least the basics of the Korean language
    - learn how to approach people; I have no problems in holding a one-on-one conversation with somebody, but first impression is something that I always fail miserably at
    - learn to hold my ground and principles at all reasonable cost; I feel like an used or useless wimp sometimes, I'm a very, very generous person as far as helping others goes and obviously a good number of people try to use me as much as possible, without actually giving anything themselves or even having a casual conversation once a month

    It also wouldn't be bad for me to find out what I want to be doing after I finish school, because honestly I have absolutely no clue at the current moment.
    Well that sums up the goals that I have set so far, but of course I'm ready to make any reasonable changes.
     
  2. Tom

    Tom Active Member

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    Hi Kostadin!

    I can relate to a lot of what you have written.

    You seem very motivated, above that of a 'normal' 17 year old. You will go far.

    As a side note, your English reads perfectly. I think round 3 will be easy. Mind writing up my masters report? ;)

    Edit: You have lots of goals. Maybe pick one and brainstorm it?
     
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  3. James

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    Good intro, Kostadin,

    Seems like you have some picture of what you want to achieve this next year. Let's try to bundle some of that into a clear goal. It looks like these parts could be bundled:

    So you could start a brainstorming thread in the Misc forum, where we can discuss what it would take to succeed in that. Then you can set a goal for it.
     
  4. Shaney96

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    Hey man, it's fucking ace that you've discovered this self-improvement shit so early on, so props for that.

    In regards to your current situation, I agree that it's of utmost importance to focus on your studies, as you'll otherwise regret it in a few years time.
    I recommend reading How to Win Friends and Influence People, then The Charisma Myth, to help you improve your first impressions and garner more friendships along your journey, while all the time coming across as a more attractive and powerful person. Remember to take the reading slow, and ensure to set small goals along the way so you're applying what you're reading in the outside world. This can be challenging, but that's all part of the journey.

    Death and black metal huh? Damn straight man, that's my shit. Throw a few band names at me.
     
  5. Tom

    Tom Active Member

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    'build it and they will come'
     
  6. Fundinn

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    Welcome Kostadin! It's great that you have become self-aware of your actions and goals at 17, the sooner the better! I think you have a lot of goals, you might want to put them into buckets. Effort is one thing, effort with intention and a sense of direction is another one.

    It sounds good to find where you belong, know your place. But pay attention to rash actions to stand out or put potential friendships aside. Everyone has interesting stories to tell.
     
  7. norbulak

    norbulak New Member

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    Hi Kostadin, It's pretty cool that you have as much hindsight at such a young age. As long as you don't get sidetracked with commonalities, you will go far.
    Why not go electric from the start ? I'm also a metal fan and have been playing guitar since I was about 13. I started by playing acoustic guitar but I think that if I had started electric I would've gotten faster to where I am now. Anyhow, since you are very ambitious having a musical side project enabling you to express yourself artistically ( and blow off steam occasionally ) can only be beneficial IMHO. There's an excellent software I used to learn some music theory, maybe there's some better stuff available now but here's a link anyways : http://www.guitarscalesmethod.com/
     
  8. Tom

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    I 2nd this. I think you'll find acoustic a bit tame to what you normally listen too.

    Maybe acoustic for the babes.... But don't pick it just for girls xD
     
  9. Kostadin

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    Thanks for the answers everyone! My first brainstorming thread is in the works.

    I would have loved to do so, but I money isn't a thing I have too much of. The upcoming summer I'm going to work something and I plan on investing part of the money into an electric guitar, provided I still have the interest and the time. Also thanks for the link.

    Even though I am young, I have already found out that doing something only because of girls leads to inevitable failure. :D
     
  10. Tom

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    When your perfect English unleashes the sexual desires of all women in Bulgaria and creates a rift in space and time, go back in time and tell my fat 17 year old ass to put down the sponge ball magic tricks. They didn't help me get girls. Waste of time xD

    Looking forward to the brainstorm session man.
     
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