I am not attracting girls. Sure I've definitely attracted 2 girls in my life who I dated for 2-3 weeks. One fizzled out as we mutually ghosted, the other I had to let down as she was ringing me 6 times a day and was 30lbs plus over her picture. 'Lower your standards bruh' I tried to like the 6 time caller girl, I just couldn't. She ended up in a relationship 2 months after, girl was too keen. So, this puts the onus on me to improve my SMV to attract the 6-7's that I've had some tinder first dates only to be calling the ghost busters 2 days after. There's a common mantra of 'build it and they will come'. Lets put this to the test. An intense 1 year long personal development so I will be unrecognizable by the end of it. i was thinking of putting it under one goal but running the goals in stages and they run after the other. Essentially I'm thinking: Before I go into the stages I need a mission statement I guess. My mission that doesn't include girls, but something to aim my life towards. in the near future, decent body, decent wardrobe stacked in a bad ass room, living comfortably with a growing social circle, setting the scene to move out with a turbocharged social life and the skills to utilize this accommodation. Stage 1: this will initiate after my holiday. I need to upgrade my bedroom, get a job and lose weight. Weightloss is just cruising now so I'l just keep it slowly burning in the background. A vague centre line of a 2 pack as emerged. Probably about 10 more lbs to go and I'll start actually looking lean. I'll spend an hour minimum on my room (tidying, clearing shit out, looking for new furniture ect.) every day. I plan to run a a black metal theme with green LED's as I think it will look sick. One wall grey the rest white. Obviously days of painting will take more time. I will provide pictures. I will spend minimum an hour a day on job hunting/prep. I got involved with a girl and her group at a meetup so will just go with the flow on this. I like the girl but I'll just roll with it. See what happens. Stage 2: Social life. Develop rock solid inner game, unphased by any rejection. Hard to prove/measure but perhaps 15 minutes of mediation a day can some positive affirmations can be tracked. Buy a killer wardrobe. Really go to town on my Instagram. Already started this. Candid topless photos, cool hiking spots ect. Will force me to get out. Coupled with this, go hard into my hobbies and interests. Try new stuff ect. Social life plus some light dating on the back burner. Meetups, eventbrite and dating apps. Tinder, bumble, okcupid and one other random one that I feel like. Spend about 30 minutes sorting those out a day. Coupled with my revamped insta, body, wardrobe and bedroom, will be interesting to see how this pans out. Stage 3: Adult. I plan on spending at least a year at home saving money and living comfortably buying a few things I've always wanted. I found uni hard and and I didn't really do anything so want tio do that stuff I missed out on in the financial comfort of living at home. I'll probably take 2 years at home, working, saving and buying a few cool things. Then it's time to move out and drop a supercharger into my dating life with a flat hopefully very near a major city centre, using my own place to finally not scare girls off. I'll be about 25/26 and hopefully hitting my prime. I'll have built it, will they come?