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Goal Spin 2 Plates

Discussion in 'Women' started by Shaney96, Aug 19, 2018.

Goal: I will spin 2 plates. by January 1, 2019 (in 6 Weeks 1 Day)

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Member Shaney96 commits to the following actions to achieve this goal

I will spin 2 plates by 01/01/19. This will be achieved through interacting with 10 different girls per week, 5 of which should be interactions started from a daygame direct approach.

  1. Gort

    Gort Robot

    Notification: Goal update is due.

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  2. Shaney96

    Shaney96 Active Member

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    Goal Update

    0/5:

    Basically relapsed this week. Over-eaten most days, not been to the gym, not cold-approached, watched porn twice.
    I could go into much depth about this, but I see little point in doing so. Basically, I've just not been balancing things. I've had very little joy in much over the last, well, probably couple of months. I've set myself goals and things to strive for, without even being certain that it truly is I that wants these things. Even though I've 'messed up' this last week, I've felt more at ease and peaceful. It's like I was before just working for the sake of it and not properly rewarding myself, and eventually I just 'broke' a bit.

    I've stopped going on Instagram so much, uninstalled Tinder and Reddit from my phone, and I'm beginning to be able to have interactions with girls where my mind isn't shouting "KINO! ESCALATE! PUSH/PULL" and all this bollocks. This weekend I went on a society trip (got back about 30mins ago) to the Yorkshire Dales and I fucking loved having human-human interactions, even with decently attractive girls, without having sex on my mind. And you know what? I reckon I've actually 'done better' (regarding being attractive) than I would have had I been 'trying'. That's the difference: I've not been - or not as much - having a needy vibe and been trying to 'fuck' each and every girl. Furthermore, I've learned that, by taking a week 'off' and taking a step back from life, I've realized that I won't die, in the respect that I was stressing each day about having to approach, to go to the gym, to ensure I get X amount of extra hours of study in.

    I mean, I don't know how I'll go about this goal. I'm 99% positive I made it because I thought it's 'just something I should do' due to the amount of EVERY DAY TRP reading I was doing. I believe that, if I can find something authentic that I can strive toward - something that genuinely means something to me and enthuses me - then I'll attract more and, since I still do want to spin plates and obviously have sex, then I'll still be able to escalate etc when the time calls for it. The point is that I've just been doing these approaches - and even the weight loss shit - because I set myself to do so on here. The goals were, primarily, externally imposed, hence why I've received little joy - if any - from all my approaches, and never really enjoyed going to the gym much. I recall when I was at my placement, and even before, when I'd actually thoroughly enjoy each session, but over the last couple of months I've just been working out for the sake of reaching some goal - some goal that I've not set because I truly want it for myself, but because I've seen it as a means of helping attract more girls.

    I've got therapy on Tuesday, and am looking forward to it honestly. I want to be able to flesh out what it is that I want and just get my mindset straight. I aim to further reduce my time on social media and on completely restricting my time on TRP and other related subreddits. I'd like to give my life some meaning - and I mean I would like to give it some, so that my day-to-day activities may actually become fulfilling - that doesn't mean that all the work I do must be joyous.. just provide some fulfillment.
     

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  3. James

    James Host

    Sounds fair enough. You took a solid swing at it and you've discovered some psychological / physical limits, and no doubt learned some things, from attempting the goal. This was quite a long goal length, concurrent with an action commitment that was quite a stretch (or at least an "average joe" would think so, not sure what the internet heros over at TRP would think). This might indicate a upper limit on good goal lengths; > 3 sustained months of atypical stressful exertion without readjusting might be a bit high.

    And good you've been pulling back from the internet stuff.

    Shall I cancel this goal?
     
  4. Shaney96

    Shaney96 Active Member

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    Please.

    I kinda feel some 'badness' in cancelling this goal, but it just doesn't feel moral for me to pursue this at the moment. 'Moral' in the sense that I feel I'm doing it for the sake of meeting some externally-imposed expectation (TRP), as opposed to not truly wanting it for myself. I guess 'incongruent' is more accurate. Yeah, you know, it'd be cool to be fucking multiple hot girls simultaneously, however, I just do not believe my mindset and current headspace is aligned with such a reality.

    I guess I can use an analogy about building a business: I've thought in the past that I 'should' start building a business (remember my 'passive income' goal?) because I didn't want employment post-Uni so thought I 'should just build a business then'. It was a "well that sounds like something I'll probably enjoy" sort of goal; and therefore, because it wasn't something I truly wanted, I wouldn't have enjoyed the long, tedious process of getting to that end-point; This has been my experience of this goal.

    I've gotten more comfortable around girls, and am more confident in physically escalating. I've learned some shit about my wants but, more importantly, that I need to determine what I truly value in life and create completely personal goals that I genuinely do want for myself.

    The gym hasn't been visited for over a week, and I'm struggling to justify why I should go again. I think I'm going to wait until I actually want to go, and then exercise discipline to start going and seeing the benefit for myself. I'm struggling to find the balance and see the reality between 'want I genuinely want' and 'what I should push myself to do which is difficult.' Hopefully clearing myself through some therapy and understanding myself and my relationship with the world will help somewhat
     
  5. Kostadin

    Kostadin Active Member

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    I remember that some time ago you asked me some questions on calisthenics, but you never really tried it, if I am not mistaken? And you also spoke about a "climbing" society a few weeks ago. Maybe you do not enjoy the atmosphere of the gym. Or maybe lifting is not your thing. There is a chance that you might be lying yourself as to what the actual reason is and I'm sure the therapy will help with that. But I think that it will be beneficial for you to do other things as soon as you get sick of sitting, perhaps even earlier. Trying new things in a moment of identity crisis is probably the most common way of dealing with the said problem.

    "Get lost so that you find yourself."
     
  6. Shaney96

    Shaney96 Active Member

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    I didn't go into depth in my response, but I'll shed some light here: I believe the lack of enjoyment for the gym recently has been due to how an underlying, most likely unconscious, motivation has been that of attracting girls, as opposed to doing it because I find joy in doing it.

    I've lifted - albeit inconsistently - for a few years, and have had spouts where I've looked forward to going to the gym. However, it's explicit now that I'm doing it for the wrong reasons, hence why I've abstained recently and am basically 'taking a step back' in hoping I can wipe my mind clean from how it's been stained with external expectation.

    Interesting. I aim to really find what's important to me and begin leading something of a more simple, meaningful life. I've been captivated by philosophy recently, and believe this has been due to my prior interest in psychology, so this may be a road to go down. But yeah man, cheers for your insight.
     
  7. Gort

    Gort Robot

    Notification: The previous update has been rated.

    The score was: 1.00.

    Your next progress update will come due on Sun, 04 Nov 2018
    Admin: goal canceled.
     
  8. James

    James Host

    You should still keep going, for purely self-development reasons.

    "It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” ― Socrates

    And it is a sad thing, really. Most people will never see what their body looks like at it's fittest and strongest. Our ancestors did by default, due to toiling on farms or in mines or in battles.

    Being in solid shape isn't just about girls, it also increases the respect you get from other people, as well as the respect you have for yourself. For instance, whenever you see another man who is ripped, you instinctively think of that man as higher ranking than other men -- because he has the health and dedication required to be shaped like that. The sloppy beer gut guy is the default, the natural result of modern sedentary lifestyle, who's under the control of the status quo rather than himself, which is why we instinctively ascribe him a low rank.

    Of course, as you failed this one. But the failure created insight, which gets you one step closer to success.
     
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